Respecting people’s decisions

So many people have told me something along the lines of that a person doesn’t have to like a friend’s decisions, but they should respect their right to make them. But what the hell is a person supposed to do when a supposed friend makes a decision that is about as stupid as could be?

What is a person to do when a brown-skinned friend very dear to them chooses a racist white jock from Kenora? I’m in a situation where someone I think highly of (or at least I think I do) has been hurt by someone she fell in love with. That person had the misfortune to fall in love with a white guy from Kenora. The fact that he’s white isn’t the issue. The fact that he’s white, has no REAL brown friends, has never had a brown girlfriend and is a liar IS the issue.

My friend is falling for his bullshit hook, line, sinker, and the fucking rod too. She was promised the world and was gullible enough to believe it. He hurt her before by asking her to go blonde. We’ve a mutual acquaintance who agrees with me completely – white jocks from Kenora just are not in the tradition of accepting natives as equals. She is giving this racist punk many chances that she didn’t give others. As far as their positions in life, they’re not even remotely similar. Nothing in common is what it seems. He wasn’t cool about her beautiful children, but as soon as she dumps him… he obviously comes up with a spiel about being around them.

Kinda hurts. What hurts even more is I’m having to fight the feeling that my opinion of my friend is lowering because of the decisions being made. I don’t think I was ever the type to respect people making stupid decisions. Why can’t she just wake the fuck up and see what others see?